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Why Halloween really scares me

Cheryl Clemens | 10/30/09

This blog is written by my co-editor Cheryl Clemens:

Slender I am not.

I’m 5-foot-9 and fluctuate between a size 14 and a size 16.

After 40-plus years, I’ve finally accepted that I’m never going to be a girl who looks good in skinny jeans. I don’t love my body, but I don’t hate it anymore, either.

But I will tell you what scares me — Halloween. And no, not because of anything horror-related.

I just can’t resist all that candy in the house. It’s never just a nibble here and a nibble there. It’s a sugar fest. And it doesn’t stop there.

As soon as the candy starts to dwindle in the house, I find myself baking pumpkin pies and preparing for the year’s biggest food celebration — Thanksgiving. And what happens the day after Thanksgiving? Christmas cookie baking.

So to me, Halloween is the kickoff of a two-month-long food fest that doesn’t end until New Year’s Day with a resolution to lead a healthier lifestyle.

Anyone else feel the same way?

Any words of advice? I could really use them.

What to wear

Betsy Stein | 10/29/09
Lilly as a Spanish princess, Jonah in his jammies, Adam without the Hobgoblin mask and Maggie, one sad starlet.

Lilly as a Spanish princess, Jonah in his jammies, Adam without the Hobgoblin mask and Maggie, one sad starlet.

While scrambling to come up with Halloween costumes this time of year, I always reflect back to the snafus we’ve had in our house in past years.

One year I ordered costumes after Halloween for cheap that I was sure would go over the next year. One was an awesome Power Ranger costume. But Adam didn’t agree. He never said he didn’t like it, but I got the drift when he went into his room, cut “patches” out of paper, pinned them onto a sweatshirt and declared he was going to be a scarecrow. That Power Ranger costume is still hanging untouched in the closet.

One year Maggie picked a Hollywood starlet costume off the wall at Party City. She totally loved it, until it was time to put it on and go trick or treating. Not sure what the problem was — maybe the long sleeve shirt I made her wear under it — but she was totally in tears when everyone else was ready to head out.

That same year Adam picked out a scary hobgoblin mask. When it was time to go, there was no sign of the mask. Instead he was wearing an old Rastafarian hat with dreadlocks we picked up in Bermuda years before. Apparently, he didn’t like the smell of the mask. Against my better judgment, I bought him another mask again this year.

Jonah has the propensity to tire of costumes once he’s worn them to school. So there’s always last minute scrambling to put together something new to trick or treat in. My one rule about this is no money will be spent on a second outfit. Last year, he was a cowboy at school and put on his Incredible’s pajamas to trick or treat in. (Mr. Incredible, however, did wear cowboy boots).

Lilly is my only child who has strong ideas about what she wants to be and sticks with it. One year she made herself a ladybug costume. Another year, she picked out a Spanish princess dress. This year, she wanted to be a white dog with brown spots. She only wavered briefly when we walked by some princess hoop dresses on deep sale while looking for the brown fabric. Luckily, they were just a bit too small.

‘Halloween’ — the comedy?

Cheryl Clemens | 10/28/09

This blog is written by my co-editor, Cheryl Clemens:

Thirty-one years ago my best friend Beth and I went to see John Carpenter’s “Halloween” in the movie theater. We screamed, hid our eyes, held our breath in terror — everything you’d expect while watching a horror movie.

Flash forward to today. I just finished watching the movie again — this time it’s the edited for TV version — with my 14-year-old daughter. Her reaction has been quite different than mine.

When Michael Myers steps out from behind a tree, a screeching sound effect makes me jump. “Wow, that was a random noise,” she laughs. Laughs! “That sounded like a broken elevator or something.”

As one of the characters is strangled with a phone cord, Lucy watches in disbelief. “A phone cord? Is that even strong enough to kill someone?”

As Laurie, the heroine, searches through a dark, empty house where unknowingly her friends have been murdered, Lucy says, “You know, that’s a really cute outfit she’s wearing.”

At a commercial, I ask her if she’s scared. “I’m suspensed,” she answers, then adds a moment later (apropos of nothing), “I wonder how snakes pee.”

Michael Myers attacks Jamie Lee Curtis and slashes at her arm, causing her to tumble down the steps. Lucy laughs hysterically. “Oh, yea, like you’re really going to fall down the steps because your sleeve is ripped!”

Finally, at the very end, I could tell she was caught up in the horror aspect of the film during the he’s dead, he’s not dead, he’s dead, is he dead?, he’s not really dead sequence. She hid her eyes once and even jumped.

As the movie ends, Donald Pleasence stares off into space. I turn to look at Lucy to gauge her reaction. “Wow,” she says. “He looks just like my science teacher last year.”

Guess her generation has a different definition of horror than mine.

New baby sister

Betsy Stein | 10/27/09

Today’s blog is written by our calendar editor and writer Laura Cech.

My son recently drew a family picture. It didn’t include his new baby sister.

“Where’s your sister?” my husband asked.

“Oh yeah,” he said.

So far, big brother’s response to the baby that has invaded his world has been to ignore her. Except when she cries. Then he makes a big show of how loud and annoying she is.

I don’t blame him. She arrived just days before he started kindergarten, delivering a one-two punch that knocked him from the center of our universe.

Now, he’s one of two at home and one of 22 at school. Considering it all, he’s handled it well. He’s focused on new skills like using scissors and absorbing new facts from “Magic School Bus.”

I am thankful to all who have given the new big brother extra attention. Some relatives have even thought to bring him a present or send him a card when they send something for the baby.

At 5 years old, he doesn’t get why everyone is making a fuss over her. She just sleeps and eats and makes diapers.

A neighbor recently stopped by and said to my son, “Wow. Look at your new baby sister!”

He didn’t even nod in the baby’s direction and said, “Look at my new Legos!”

Let’s all sing

Betsy Stein | 10/26/09

If they did this in grocery stores here — I’d look forward to going. Hey, I’d even take part! I often find myself singing to the tunes from the 80s they play at my store. This is much better. Anyone in?

Scarlett Fever in 2009?

Cheryl Clemens | 10/23/09

Today’s blog was written by Harford Magazine Editor Jennifer Dansicker:

When most of us think of Scarlett fever, we recall poor sickly Beth March from the classic Louisa May Alcott novel “Little Women.”

So when my husband called me this past weekend as I was enjoying a little girl time in New York City for my birthday and told me that our pediatrician diagnosed our 6-year-old Henry with Scarlett fever, I was immediately shocked and panicked. Seconds later, my husband assured me that Henry was put on an antibiotic and that his recovery would most likely be swift and painless.

In the 1800s, those suffering from the disease were taken away in horse driven “fever cabs” and kept in isolation hospitals for weeks to prevent the infection from spreading. As an added precaution, all personal belongings burned.

And once a patient was diagnosed as having Scarlet fever, common treatment was followed by a period of blood letting. It was common for doctors to use a surgical knife to bleed a child until the lips and cheeks became pale and the child fainted.

Scarlet fever used to be a very serious childhood disease in children under the age of 10, but now it is easily treatable. As is usually the case, Henry had a 103 fever, a full body rash and tested positive for streptococcus. The combination of those three factors equaled a diagnosis of Scarlett fever.

After 36 hours of the antibiotic amoxicillin, Henry’s rash and fever had disappeared and he was back at school, healthy and happy.

Living with lead

Betsy Stein | 10/22/09

I just read an e-mail that alerted me to the fact that it’s National Lead Poisoning Prevention Week. I used to believe that lead poisoning only hit toddlers from inner city homes who ate paint chips as if they were potato chips.

Then I had kids of my own and learned the reality the hard way. Two of my children tested positive for elevated lead levels when they were toddlers. We didn’t live in the inner city and my kids never ate paint chips. But we do live in an older home and there is plenty of lead paint — it’s just not that obvious.

The culprit when Adam was a toddler — and a very oral one at that — was the windows. Every time we opened our very old windows, we created lead dust that settled on the floor, tables, windowsills and even the toys. Luckily, his levels never went into the “poisoning” zone and quickly came down after we made some changes. We purchased a vacuum  cleaner with a HEPA filter and eventually replaced all the windows in the house. Amazingly enough, the girls never tested positive for lead.

Then Jonah was born. Around the time he started crawling, we had the outside of the house painted. The painter at the time did a lot of scraping and sanding, and I didn’t give it much of a thought until I took Jonah in for his first year check up. His lead test came back elevated. Again, the levels came down within three months, but this time I got a call from the health department. The nurse wanted to inform me of the dangers of lead.

Neither of my boys showed any signs of being sickened by the lead exposure, but we will never know what and if there will be any long-term affects. There are no concrete answers when it comes to lead. I often wonder if that’s why Adam struggles with ADHD and other issues. We will never really know for sure.

So if you live in an older home, take the time to learn about lead. Here’s a good Web site to start with. And don’t wait until your kids are crawling around to make necessary changes to your home. You don’t want to be left wondering.

Best of Balloon Boy

Cheryl Clemens | 10/21/09

This post is by my co-editor, Cheryl Clemens:

I don’t know about you, but I can’t take one more news piece about that silver balloon, a boy named Falcon and his attention-grubbing parents.

I take that back: Here’s one final news clip courtesy of CNN. It’s a funny take on a not-so-funny situation that includes all the best sound bites of the past week.

Enjoy!

Handful

Betsy Stein | 10/20/09

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My youngest turned 5 Sunday. He’s a whole handful now, but he’s still just the littlest, cutest, snuggliest thing in my mind.

It’s funny to look at him and compare him to how I saw my oldest at 5. Poor Maggie got robbed of the babyhood that Jonah may never grow out of. She was just 20 months old — still in diapers — when the twins were born. And from that moment on, she was a big girl. Sadly, I don’t remember snuggling much with her after that. I don’t think it’s ironic that she still occasionally tries to squeeze into my lap.

Jonah, on the other hand, still reigns over my lap at 5. He  tries to get me to carry his 40-plus-pound self, and refuses to dress himself half the time. But lately I’ve seen glimpses of him growing up.

Yesterday, he completed a complicated Lego creation all by himself, following the directions step by step. He’s starting to grasp the notion of what it means to clean his room and will even comply occasionally. And lately, he’s started showering all by himself.

But I will always see him as my baby. Just like Maggie will always be my big girl.

Just get the shot

Betsy Stein | 10/19/09

I’ve always been a fan of the flu shot. But last year someone sent me this public service announcement from the CDC and I became even more of an advocate. It’s personal stories from families that lost a child because of the flu.

We got our regular flu shots last week. After, we went out to dinner to take the edge off. It was a fun family night out. 

Hopefully, we will be able to do the same thing in a few weeks when the H1N1 vaccine becomes available at our pediatrician’s office. Even if the chances are small that my kids might die from the flu — I’m not taking any chances. I wish you wouldn’t either.

About Betsy Stein

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Betsy Stein has been editor of Maryland Family magazine since 2002 and currently shares the job with Cheryl Clemens, who will be a regular guest on My Maryland Family. Betsy’s main and most fulfilling job, however, is her family — husband, Chris, and children, Maggie, 11; Lilly and Adam, 9; and Jonah, 5. Before kids, Betsy was a reporter for the Howard County Times beginning in 1991. She covered education, planning and zoning, and courts and cops at various points in her career.

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